After the holidays

There were some nice highlights, but this year I was ready for Christmas to be over. Among the highlights, I had some really great get-togethers with my mom, and we had a really relaxing Christmas morning at home. Miss P really had us in stitches with her animated, excited responses to gift openings. Actually, upon awakening, she was most interested in beelining over to where she had left Santa's treats to see if he had actually eaten them (he had).

The festivities continue, albeit more low-key, as we continue to connect with friends and family this week. E and I are thrilled to have another week of vacation. This is the first time in years that he hasn't had papers to grade. It has been very nice to just relax together. E and I are the types that love to just cozy up at home after P has gone to bed with some conversation and a loaded Tivo. We are getting together with two other families on New Year's Eve for an overnight 'family friendly' party at a friend's house, and are looking forward to that.

One thing I like after the holidays is the anticipation of a new year and a new beginning. Like many, I always think about how I could be healthier. It's fun to think and make plans, even if my goals are a bit more lofty than realistic. I've been inspired by the yoga store Lululemon - extremely pricey - but has a neat goal-oriented focus. The store is filled with 'goal sheets' and misson statements by all the employees re: where they want to be in 1, 5, and 10 years. I always like to dream and plan. Some things on my list include preparing healthier meals in a fun way (need to get more specific) and leaving work earlier to include time for outside active time/play/ workouts with Miss P in the afternoon. We are currently trying to teach her how to ride a bike (with training wheels). She can do it, but is not very motivated. We're trying to get her over the intial learning curve - I know she'll enjoy it once she has some confidence...I'd also like to do more yoga and maybe train for a short race.

Finally, I think I'd like to start planning more get-togethers. We tend to get busy accepting invitations to do things with various different groups of people, and then run out of time to do much reciprocation. (It also sometimes seems overwhelming - like we have to go all out and/or spend a lot of money.) I'd like to do more frequent, simple small parties.

What are your thoughts for 2009?

Guitar Hero

Miss P last night at a friend's house....

P at a craft party

I'm back!

OK, I'm going to toot my horn and share a few things I'm proud of from the past few weeks...

~We have managed to really teach P the point of the Christmas. She has been talking about Jesus fairly often, and her goal to be like him. She gets that Christmas is Jesus' birthday and a celebration of God's love for us.

~We've been working on giving. P used her piggy bank money to buy a gift from the giving tree. We also dropped off some icognito treats.

~ I created 'Gratitude Boxes' for the teachers at P's preschool. I got the idea from an Oprah episode on simple, meaningful gifts. I printed out 'thank you note' templates from her website on cardstock and included them with a note explaining the project in the 'sign-in/sign-out' book. Parents put the completed notes in a box in the office. Then, at the holiday party I snagged parents as they arrived and ended up with several more notes that shared what parents and/or kids appreciated about the particular teachers. I then sorted the notes into boxes I had purchased from Target and added bows and nametags. I almost didn't do it, and I've been kind of pressed for time. I'm so glad I did though. So often I have a great idea, but then not the time or follow through to actually do it the way I envision. I got a call this morning from one of the teachers thanking me - I was so glad it meant something to her.

~I've done some beautiful wrapping this year! Wish I had a picture. Cards were mailed early, and shopping is nearly done. And we've stayed close to our budget.

I am out tonight with some girlfriends for a quick mom's night out. Then we are out every other night this week at some celebration. Today is supposed to be a day of cleaning and catch up; there has been some of that, but a lot of relaxing too. Since that can be tough for me, I'm kind of proud of that too!

Happy Thanksgiving!

I woke up this morning so feel of peace and joy. There has been a bit of illness, stress and just busyness surrounding us -- this morning it was just all gone. My favorite thing is to just have downtime with E and Miss P and that is exactly what we are doing for the first half of today. As usual, P was out of bed within minutes of my getting up (someone asked her recently what time she gets up in the morning, her answer: "As soon as mommy does.") Often I admit that I slightly cringe, just wishing for a few more minutes to get organized. Today, I looked at her sparkly blue eyes and felt even happier than I had moments earlier.

We hit Star*ucks, breakfasted, and perused the Black Friday sale ads. P has me so entertained lately with her musings and questions. Today: "Why do the baristas shout the drinks when they are ready?" We headed back home in time for the Macy*s parade. I really enjoy it every year - especially the musicals. To keep P engaged, as she does not share the same affection for the morning chatter and balloons on TV, I found an 'alphabet sticker workbook' -- which had been hiding for a year in the coloring books tub. I'll be darned, but she actually likes it, and clamored to do 4 pages.

In a bit, I'll start my last two dozen apple dumplings for later today. We are due to see the in-laws in about three hours. I'm looking forward to connecting with family and am hoping to get everyone organized for a game of charades. (Or possibly to leave the babes later on at home with the grands, and head out with the sibs to see Four Christmases. We'll see!)

Tomorrow I'll be heading out to Tarjay early for Black Friday. After that, we may head to the park, maybe hook up with my mom or friends for lunch or dinner, and see a holiday flick.

I spoke to my mom this morning and she said she feels more in the spirit than usual, and she thinks its something to do with emphasis on meaning this holiday, instead of materialism. How's that for a silver lining in these economic times? Have a wonderful holiday!

Relationship Building

Last year E and I took a parenting class called 'Raising a Resilient Child in the 21st Century.' It was awesome. Partway through the class we realized that it was really a class about building relationships, not just parenting. A lot of what we learned could be applied to all of the relationships in our lives. However, building relationships is the #1 key to parenting. Not rewards and punishments, sticker charts, etc. But listening, talking, playing and connecting with your children. There's more I'd like to say on this in another post. But what I've been thinking about is some of the homework assignments we had. One was to go on a 'one-on-one' date with your child. Another was to 'make a memory' with your child. Do something that they might remember forever (or at least for a really long time!) My challenge to myself beginning in Dec is going to be to do weekly one-on-one dates with P, and 'make a memory' with her once a month. Brainstorming (affordable) memory making ideas may be a bit tough, but it is very important to me (see my #1 Life Goal on sidebar) . Here's the kicker - I'm going to do the same thing with E! Although I think we will have to do a monthly date. Any ideas for memory making experiences for either? I'm in the market....

Holiday Card 2008

I thought about including this Halloween photo in our Christmas card....

Or this doozy, (of me in P's preschool class), gotta love the 'teacher face'....

But we went with this instead!

I don't love the ideas of 'studio' photos. I've always wanted to get a photographer to take some more natural photos of us, outside, etc. And I actually know a couple! Maybe that will be our route next year Anyway, after trying to find enough 'in focus' shots of the three of us, that didn't include random people, etc, in the background, we took the easy way out and headed to our local Picture People . We were partly motivated to get some nice shots of the Miss P in her flower girl dress (since we failed at the actual wedding). The card turned out great! (Better in 'real life') And you know what, we ended up getting such a great deal - not only was it the same price as my Kodak Gallery card mock-up, we had the actual cards in hand a couple of hours after the session. Instant gratification....

How is your card quest going?

Not the best Haiku, but.....

Report cards almost done - yay
Turning off my mind
Magazines and TV - aahhhh

What I'll definitely be doing this December

Is it just me, or can preparing for the holidays almost feel like planning a small wedding each year?

I'm not really complaining. I actually love to plan, organize and take part in all of the festivities. I do think, though, that Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate in December) can be more enjoyable if you focus and savor the joys of just a few things, as opposed to doing everything. I read an article on simplifying Christmas last year that suggested determining what 3-5 things were most important to you and your family at holiday time, and doing just that.

Here are my must do's for making the holiday season special (some of them may seem a little silly or superficial, but, hey this is me!):

1) Christmas Music: I love Christmas movies. The ABC Family channel plays original cheesy Christmas movies each year that I typically eat up with a spoon and some hot chocolate. Sometimes, though, it feels a little forced. Like - 'Oh! It's December, better pull out the Christmas movies for the mandatory viewings.' That's not the case with my holiday songs. I love them so much that they are always at the top of my itunes 'most played list' -- even though I only listen for a month each year.

2) Christmas Cards: We missed sending out cards in '05, and I was sorely disappointed. I adore receiving cards, especially the 'family photo' style cards almost everyone does now. I even love getting the 'holiday letter' some people do. I have started saving my cards and putting them in a little scrapbook, which I occasionally look at.

3) Get-togethers with special family and friends: My school has a little holiday shindig (potluck at someone's house of course), and some of E's friends from high school throw a big party that is kind of like a reuinion every December. Both of these events are nice, but I could truthfully miss them and be OK. (One year, we were so starved for a date, that we did miss my school party and went to see 'The Holiday' with Kate Winslet and Cameron Diaz - which is now one of my favorite movies of all time, btw.) However, there are a few get-togethers that are really special to me. I have a few friends that I got my teaching credential with. Two of them teach in my district and are married with their own families now. We have a very special friendship and I really relish our annual little Christmas celebration. One has a son Miss P's age and I have a great pic from their first Christmas with the two of them in little red suits clawing at each other, while I laugh hysterically in the background.

It also wouldn't feel like Christmas without my aunt and uncle's party. Growing up, my family spent all its holidays with the relatives on my dad's side - we're talking every special day. As everyone has grown, changed, moved and branched out, that is not the case anymore. However, we still make it to my aunt and uncle's party which is now the weekend before Christmas each year. Spending time with the family I grew up with really says Christmas to me!

4) Special clothes: During these special get-togethers it's important that I (and Miss P) have something special to wear. Not necessarily fancy, just (subtle) festive, cute and appropriate.

5) Church and the true meaning. Finally, attending mass on Christmas Eve is a must-do (as well as pretty much every Sunday). As Miss P gets older (and now attends religious education), I have been really enjoying teaching her about the true meaning of holidays, and Christmas is a big one! Something new I'd like to add to this vein, is a way to give back to the community. We've done different things in the past. I've been talking to E and Miss P about this and I have a few ideas that I will be posting later.

What's on your list?